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The Harmful Effects of Stress and the Benefits of Practicing Mindfulness

The harmful effects of chronic long term stress on the physical body and mental/emotional health and cognitive abilities:

  • Hypertension, raised cortisol levels, inflammation and pain, increased heart rate, hormonal dysregulation, gastrointestinal issues, lowered immune functioning, impaired sleep, slower recovery from illness or surgery, tense tight muscles especially in neck, shoulders, jaw and lower back and other stress related illnesses and health issues.
  • Decrease in ability to concentrate and focus, impaired memory, challenges with strategic planning and organizing and lessened ability to be creative.
  • Over reactive, easily irritated, frustrated or angry; shut down, not in touch with feelings or hyper aroused and overly or irrationally emotional – including feeling overwhelmed with fear, anxiety, sadness, depression and anger; challenges with maintaining loving relationships and feeling compassion and kindness with self and others.

“Chronic stress has also been shown by Nobel Laureate Elizabeth Blackburn to increase the rate of degradation of the telomeres at the ends of all our chromosomes, and thus accelerates the biological aging at the cellular and sub-cellular level, leading to a significant shortening of the lifespan”. (Epel et al. 2004)

What is mindfulness practice and meditation and how does it reduce the harmful effects of stress?

Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose with focused awareness, non-judgmentally, to what one is experiencing in the present moment. It is the ability to be with what is happening without labeling, judging, indulging, grasping, pushing away, or wanting things to be different. This includes becoming aware of body sensations, sounds, thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Mindfulness practice and meditation greatly enhances your ability to create a fulfilling, engaging life. It increases present moment awareness which allows you to respond and make conscious choices rather than reacting on auto pilot with conditioned patterns of thought and behavior to life’s challenges.

Positive effects of practicing mindfulness:

  • Creates new neural pathways that promote positive mental states on a physiological level.
  • Reduces pain and inflammation, builds a stronger immune system, lowers blood pressure, balances hormones, faster recovery from illness or surgery, better sleep.
  • Reduced reactivity and defensiveness, enhancing personal relationships.
  • Learn how to respond to challenges mindfully rather than react automatically.
  • Feeling more kindness and compassion for self and others.
  • Enhanced performance, memory, focus, concentration, creativity, pro-active strategic thinking and better organization.
  • Increased life satisfaction and fulfillment, including more joy, peace, ease and happiness.

Mindfulness practice helps us become more aware of what’s happening in our bodies so we can release stress before it takes over. Practicing mindfulness can teach you how to be present, non- judgmentally, in the moment with whatever is happening; including watching your thoughts, emotions and body sensations. Over time this will help you to become less reactive and more accepting of what is happening in your life, which will allow you to ride the waves of your life with curiosity, acceptance and joy and be at peace with whatever life brings you.

Many scientific studies are now proving that regular mindfulness meditation practice improves the health of our brains and how the brain functions. Meditation increases neuroplasticity, the brains ability to change no matter how old we are. This means we can grow, and develop healthy habits at any age.

The amygdala is the brain’s “fight-flight or freeze” center and initiates the body’s stress responses. The prefrontal cortex is the center that controls awareness, concentration, and decision making. MRI scans show that with just 8 weeks of regular mindfulness meditation, the cortex becomes thicker and activity in the amygdala decreases, giving us better control over our thoughts, emotions and how we function in the world.

Overall, practicing mindfulness will support you in being present for your life. You will learn to be with pleasant and unpleasant experiences without grasping and holding on to the pleasant and pushing away and fighting with the unpleasant. This creates more space to let things be or to make informed wise decisions or actions from a place of calm and equanimity. Besides all of the physical health benefits, your personal life will be enhanced as you learn how to slow down and cultivate a calm clear mind so you can access your inner wisdom and resources for healing, personal growth, healthier relationships at work and at home, happiness and life enjoyment.

What is Feng Shui?

Feng Shui is a way of life and is called the Chinese Art of Placement. Through using Feng Shui tools you can arrange your environment to support and enhance your career, relationships, creativity, wealth, health and spirituality. Imagine your home being a sacred sanctuary that is rejuvenating, peaceful, inspiring and uplifting. Where every room has comfortable inviting furniture and artwork that reflects who you are now and who you are becoming. Where all of your belongings have a home, so you can easily find things, making it easier to focus and concentrate. There is a feeling of joy and happiness in your home as well as peace and tranquility.

The art and practice of Feng Shui sees your home as a mirror of your inner consciousness which is reflected in your environment. The quality of your life and environment are dynamically connected.

Often times what once worked well in our environment and our life is now outdated and no longer supports who we are now. A Feng Shui consultant can objectively see if your home environment is blocking or supporting your goals for a fulfilling life. Feng Shui enhancement suggestions can be simple, easy and inexpensive including guidance on clearing clutter.

GRATITUDE & GENEROSITY: 9 Attitudinal Foundations of Mindfulness

Gratitude allows us to be aware of the wonder and abundance of the present moment and not take things for granted: I am alive – I am breathing – all of my internal organs are working together in harmony without my intervention to keep me alive.
Generosity brings joy to others as it is a manifestation that you care and are present for them.
Gratitude and generosity enhance our interconnectedness with one another.

By: Jon Kabbat-Zinn

Let’s start with Gratitude. The word itself is so vast and encompasses so many different aspects of life that we can be grateful for.

I know that for me, in the past, it was challenging to feel grateful if I was tangled up in a story of stress. I just couldn’t find any space to experience gratitude if I was feeling upset, stressed out or overwhelmed.

I have since learned, through practicing mindfulness, that I have the capacity to expand my awareness to include EVERYTHING! Meaning, my experience of life doesn’t have to be black or white/either/or/good or bad but I can expand to include ALL OF IT!!!

So I might be having a hard day or experiencing some challenge or stress and at the same time, I can expand to include the beauty of the sunset, the smell of the Magnolias on our street, the affection of my little kitty and a hug from my husband – and really feel the gratitude for being alive EVEN if I am experiencing a challenging time.

And the truth is, that if we are paying attention, nothing stays the same anyway. It’s always changing from one moment to the next. One moment feeling gratitude. The next moment feeling something unpleasant……………like clouds passing by in the sky…………….you can’t hold onto a cloud……………a thought…………………a feeling……………….an emotion………………

And Generosity: There are so many ways we can express our generosity. We can be generous in how we offer our time and space to really be with someone and listen to them. Remember how it feels when someone has really been there for you deeply listening and not trying to fix or offer advice?

We can be generous with our resources, giving money to charities that are important to what we value.

There is generosity in giving time to helping others without expecting anything in return. We give generously of ourselves and in doing that what we get so much more in return.

That is the interconnectedness that naturally surrounds us when we practice Gratitude and Generosity.

How do you experience Gratitude and Generosity in your life?

Notice how you feel when you are aware of being grateful……………or when you are unconditionally expressing generosity of your time, energy, resources, money, skills or talents.

I know that for me there is a felt sense experience of warmth and expansion and openness in my heart when I am in gratitude and expressing generosity.

As opposed to when I am feeling ungrateful or stingy and miserly, I feel contracted and shut down.


This concludes the series on the 9 Foundational Attitudes of Mindfulness.

Here is the list of the 9 mindful attitudes. A fun way to play with this is to take one a week and incorporate that attitude into your life for the entire week and see what happens.

LETTING GO: 9 Attitudinal Foundations of Mindfulness

By: Jon Kabbat-Zin

  • Letting go is a way of letting things be, of accepting things as they are.
  • We let things go and we just watch……………
  • If we find it particularly difficult to let go of something because it has such a strong hold on our mind, we can direct our attention to what ‘holding’ feels like. Holding on is the opposite of letting go. Being willing to look at the ways we hold on shows a lot about its opposite.

Sometimes it seems like a few of these foundational attitudes are similar in nature – and yet still subtly different. We can let go of something and still be challenged to accept it the way it is. Non-striving is similar to accepting – however, there still might be an action that is being taken with non-striving, but the attitude would be one of relaxing into the action and no expectations of what the outcome might be.

So what is the subtle difference between letting go and acceptance? Sometimes I can let go of the need to be right. And at the same time not necessarily accept “that person’s” pontification! Notice that there is also judgment there with labeling “that person’s” communication as “pontification”! Just making a point here that the mindfulness journey of discovery is one that invites us to engage with playful curiosity and gentle inquiry into our thoughts, feelings, and emotions, without judging ourselves.

So back to letting go. I can remember holding onto this thought that “He/She should have acknowledged and thanked me for all the time I gave/volunteered to help their business endeavors. This was a tough one that I had a very hard time letting go of. Thoughts of anger would traipse through my brain at regular intervals. I was really gnawing on this bone! Finally, I sat with the feeling of “being unacknowledged”. WOW! That triggered some very old childhood stuff that I was able to really see and feel and integrate and……….yes……..finally………let go! However, I would not have been able to let go until I took the time to sit with the painful feelings that were evoked in me. And along with the integration was a great insight that I was looking for acknowledgment in all the wrong places! Outside of myself, instead of inside myself. (Sound familiar? Looking for love in all the wrong places!!!)

I also have learned to let go of my business marketing offers. Meaning, I put it out there through my various marketing avenues – and do a follow up if necessary – and then I let it go.

My husband and I recently tried twice to book our trip to the Big Island. I have already paid for the accommodations. But the first dates we chose I realized would not work as I intuited we would have to move out for termite tenting. And yes, that turned out to be true. Then we rescheduled the dates and picked new ones. I found out a month later that the Iron Man Triathlon was going on the date we chose to leave back to CA so we redid our departure date to the following date and my friend on the Big Island said that is the WORST day to leave the Big Island is the day after the Iron Man – as everyone from every country is at the airport leaving! So we said okay, let’s forget this time period entirely. We have now picked hopefully our third and final dates in May! Just saying, sometimes you have to let go and go with the flow and make other arrangements instead of “striving” to make something happen.

Please tell me about your journey and discovery of letting go.

ACCEPTANCE: 9 Attitudinal Foundations of Mindfulness

Jon Kabbat-Zinn’s definition:

  • Seeing things as they actually are in the present. If you have pain, accept that you have some pain right now and respond mindfully from there.
  • Denying what is and forcing what we want, wastes energy creates tension and prevents positive change from occurring.
  • Now is the only time we have for anything. You have to accept yourself as you are before you can really change.
  • Acceptance is not passive; it does not mean you have to like everything and abandon your principles and values. It does not mean you have to be resigned to tolerating things. It does not mean that you should stop trying to break free of your own self-destructive habits or give up your desire to change and grow.
  • Acceptance is a willingness to see things as they are. You are much more likely to know what to do and have an inner conviction to act when you have a clear picture of what is actually happening.

I can remember times when I was slightly injured or had a pain in some part of my body.  Because I used to be so attached to exercising and working out, I would be in denial and continue to work out and exercise much to the detriment of my health and wellbeing – as my pain or injury inevitably got much worse.

  

Here is a funny/silly story: my husband and I have a made up rule in the summer, which is that from June-September we are allowed one soft serve ice cream at Dairy Queen per month.  So a couple of weeks ago we were anticipating our first ice cream cone of the season by going to our local Dairy Queen. We arrived and much to our disappointment – the business had closed – for good!!! Now what? Well, we were so attached to getting this ice cream cone that we went to a soft-serve yogurt shop by our Trader Joes. Guess what? They had a sign on the window saying “Closed for Father’s Day”. Oh, but we were not to be deterred. I got on the internet and did a Google Search for Dairy Queens in our area. There was one listed in a part of town that was a bit of a drive – between 20 and 30 minutes. So off we went – and as we got close to where it was – we missed the street to turn on to.  We drove around and around and drove back to where we came from and finally realized that it was in one of those huge shopping malls. So we drive into the parking lot and realize we would have to park and walk all over this mall to find the darn place!!! Now at this point, we have been driving around for over an hour looking for this Dairy Queen. I was getting irritated and annoyed and was snapping at my husband to just let it go and let’s go home. But he was determined and found a Baskin Robbins place not too far from the shopping mall. So we finally had our ice cream cone – albeit not a soft serve. And was it enjoyable? Actually, no it wasn’t!!!! By that time I was so burned out by driving around in the car looking for a frickin’ ice cream cone that it took the delight out of our usual fun monthly ice cream rendezvous.Sometimes I have been disappointed or frustrated by how things are going in my business. But instead of acknowledging and accepting that things are not turning out how I would like; I have had a tendency in the past to override that. Instead I, will plow ahead and keep trying to make “something” work. Like spinning in place going nowhere. However, it’s not until I stop, tune in and sit with feeling the disappointment – and become aware of whatever else that triggers in me, that I am then able to let it go and calmly take action from wise discernment.

How about you? What is easy for you to accept? Where do you fight with life?