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My Story of Stress and How I Got My Life Back!

Are you overwhelmed by the amount of stress you are under?

Probably not eating right, exercising or sleeping well?

Nervous system hanging by a thread and feeling like you are going to unravel completely any day now?

Has the shit hit the fan in your life? Do you feel that the challenges are just piling up one on top of the other?

You are in the right place.

I have been where you are now.

I can help you get your life on track and back in balance.

Here is what happened to me and how I worked with it.

The year was 2009 when the shit hit the fan in my life. Which was preceded by growing up in a dysfunctional violent alcoholic family and my father committing suicide by shooting himself in the head in 2002.  And followed by a traumatic accident in 2012. I had lots of trauma in my nervous system. Which was why the events of 2009 were the last straw and unraveling of lots of layers of trauma and stress.

In 2009 the foundation under my feet crumbled away, leaving nothing but a huge empty dark void. I lost my job, gave up two addictions – smoking and food, lost 85 pounds, had to put my 17 year old cat to sleep, filed bankruptcy, went through Menopause, was on the verge of divorcing my husband, had no money and had chronic insomnia.

Was I stressed, anxious, angry and depressed? You bet! I felt that I had no resources, that I was completely debilitated and in despair. I thought I was actually nearing the end of my rope.

Honestly, there were days I thought life was not worth living. When you are sleep deprived for that long, and under so much stress, it is hard to find anything to love about being alive.

Here is what I intuitively did to keep me from becoming completely unglued, unraveled and a total basket case:

  • I kept up with my new healthy eating habits.
  • I exercised every day either walking or working out at the gym.
  • I took a variety of natural supplements and herbs to calm my nervous system and to bring down my high cortisol.
  • I used Byron Katie’s “The Work” http://thework.com/en relentlessly to work with, examine and inquire in to the parade of thoughts, beliefs and stories I was having that through her inquiry process, I discovered were not true and when I kept thinking those thoughts they made me more stressed out and emotional.
  • I used EFT (Tapping) to help me release stuck emotions. http://www.thetappingsolution.com/
  • My husband and I started seeing a therapist who was also a mindfulness teacher. I started learning about mindfulness practice and mindful meditation through Jon Kabbat-Zinn’s work. I practiced the Body Scan almost every day which is what probably gave me some semblance of being in my body at that time and I read almost every one of his books on mindfulness. The one that helped me the most was “Full Catastrophe Living”. I started practicing mindfulness meditation. http://www.strategies4wellbeing.com/resources/
  • I did stretching, yoga and qi-gong almost every day. http://www.chicenter.com
  • I got regular chiropractic work, acupuncture and massage.
  • I used our MRS mat regularly. This is a pulsed magnetic therapeutic healing mat you lie on that works with earth based Schumann Frequencies and reduces EMF’s which helps your cells detox and function at an optimum level. This was always relaxing and I would fall asleep but still didn’t sleep at night. http://www.imrs2000.com/
  • Besides the mindfulness practice, I read other inspirational books to try to keep my outlook as positive as possible.
  • I stayed in contact with my friends and would pretend to be doing better than I actually was because I didn’t want to seem like a constant whiner and complainer. And yet I cried every day.
  • One of my stories and beliefs was that I had to heal myself using Natural Medicine. I have been an advocate and recipient of holistic natural medicine since I left home at the age of 17. So even at the urging of my friends and family, I refused to take sleeping pills to give myself a break and get some much needed sleep. Until I couldn’t take it anymore. I had been doing Byron Katie’s, The Work, to examine my stories and beliefs. So I used her process about my belief that is was not okay to take allopathic western medicine. When I saw that story and how it made me suffer, I was able to let go of that and got a prescription for sleeping pills. THAT was the smartest thing I did. As soon as I started sleeping my nervous system had a chance to calm down and heal. After a year I started tapering off the sleeping pills and WHAM! I had a traumatic injury which resulted in me taking 3 years off from work. Yes that also really happened! Which was followed by my mom dying.
  • This is where Equine Facilitated Therapy https://www.eagala.org/and doing the Presence Process http://www.thepresenceprocessportal.com/ came in to my life. Doing these two things facilitated the complete healing of my nervous system, PTSD and unintegrated emotional charges.
  • I tell you this story, to give you hope that things will turn around and there are tools you can learn from me to help you get your life back on track and in balance even if your life feels like an overwhelming catastrophe and you think you are losing your mind!

The conclusion of this story is:

  • My husband and I are still together and our relationship is better than ever.
  • I learned a variety of healing tools because of this journey that I share with my clients to help them heal and get their life back on track and feel good again.
  • I have a new kitty named Sachi.
  • My health and wellbeing is great and I sleep like a baby.
  • I love my life and helping other women get their life back!

If you are struggling with stress and overwhelm please contact me for a no obligation FREE 30 minute consultation consultation. I will share some resources and tools that can help you. If you see a good fit with us and are ready to take back control of your life we can talk about working together.